Most of you will create New Years resolutions in the coming days; but, have you reviewed those you made last year? How did you do? Both women and men continue this annual ritual throughout the world; however, very few people do it in a way that help them succeed.
In fact, I will bet the way you create these resolutions may be contributing to your failure!
That may sound harsh, but unrealized dreams is a harsher reality. There are common traits of people who do not achieve their dreams. Are any of these familiar?
- Wishing for, instead of believing in, your goals.
- Making goals without ever reviewing your progress.
- Creating goals that make you feel bad about yourself by focusing on
- what you do not have,
- what about yourself you dislike, or
- how you feel you “should be” which is externally driven instead of coming from deep desire.
- Plus, the amount of guilt you carry for all the unkept resolutions adds to the problem and keeps you stuck.
I want you to find ways to succeed so let’s look at a few tips to move your resolutions to real goals that become your reality.
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Avoid making a laundry list of promises to stop doing x,y, or z.
(Trying to NOT do something just keeps that something front and center of your mind, making it harder to achieve your goal.)
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Go beyond the initial goal and find what is driving it.
Once you delve deeper you’ll create a much better goal and one you will be more inspired to achieve. Here are some examples of how goals can be worded to describe the why, the way you will feel when they are your reality:
- Change I want to loose 15 pounds to I feel great in my body, clothes fit well, and I enjoy my vitality.
- Replace I need to be debt free to I feel empowered to make the choices I want because I have financial resources to do so.
- Modify I found a better job to My work is fulfilling and I am inspired by the people I work with.
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Limit your resolutions to three things (one or two is even better).
I like to have one personal goal and one professional goal. Anything more than three becomes a wish list with no meaningful attention kept on any one goal.
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Write down your resolutions and put them where you can read them daily, even multiple times a day.
Say them out loud. This may sound silly, but do it anyway. You need to say them until you believe it is so, even if you do not yet have the material results to show for it. When you say your goal aloud visualize how you will feel and what you will be doing when it is reality.
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Tell somebody else what your goal(s) are for this coming year and then keep them posted regularly on your success.
I belong to a mastermind, but sharing with your best friend is equally helpful in this step.
Belief in yourself, your goals, your ability to achieve them and your worthiness to have them is the most important step in manifesting your dream. Try to think of one famous musician, olympic athlete, or other successful person who did not believe they would achieve their goal some way, some how.
Become an olympiad of your own life.
