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Springing into Life for Success

Are you springing into life?

The past month I have been surrounded by millions of wildflowers on my land and the surrounding country roads — the air is actually perfumed with the gentle aroma of all these flowers. With gentle temperatures outside, I have been able to work with my windows wide open, inspired by breezes and songbirds.

Each spring, life puts forth such a magnificent show of new energy that it viscerally changes how I feel. Does it affect you that way, too?

I am happier, more motivated and inspired to create things myself.

I have also noticed that people have this same effect on each other.

When I am around someone who is on fire with life, creating with gusto some new venture, it inspires me to become more active on my own goals.

Are you working on a BIG goal?

If not, consider surrounding yourself with people who help you move from your own internal winter to “springing into life!” And if you are on fire with inspiration for what you are doing — THANK YOU! You are, perhaps unknowingly, infusing others with a spring-like energy that is worth more than you realize, I welcome you to share it with us.

Interviews with Influential Women: Diane Craig

Resilient. Powerful. Inspiring. Those are just a few words that I’d use to describe President and Founder of Corporate Class Inc. Diane Craig.

Featured in this installment of Interviews with Influential Women, Diane and I discuss just how she achieved monumental success for herself and her company amid constant personal tragedy.

In 200 words or less, please give my readers a short background on your personal journey that brought you to today.

One day, I was driving, and I saw a sign that read: “It took 20 years for this man to become an overnight success.”

I wish it had read 10 years, because I guess I took it literally. For the next 20 years, I was compelled to relentlessly pursue my dream and goal of growing my business.

I always had a passion for meeting people with great presence. After graduating from my fashion design program and teaching Haute Couture, I became an image consultant in our nation’s capital, Ottawa. In the 90’s, my claim to fame was working with Canadian political leaders. Not long after, I realized that appearance was only a part of what presence is all about. Content is still King/Queen.

I began studying what it meant to bring presence to each speech, conversation or room. In 2007, I launched my Executive Presence System, and it is now internationally recognized—including a licensing program launched internationally 2 years ago.

Who are your top 3 female role models, and what about each inspires you?

Christine Lagarde: As one of Europe’s most influential ambassadors in the world of international finance, she exudes Executive Presence. She is intelligent, well spoken, worldly, sophisticated and an inspiration to many women who believe reaching the top in a male dominated industry is nearly impossible.

Carolyn Wilkins: According to The Wall Street Journal, she is today’s most influential woman in Canada’s banking industry, not to mention the first woman to grace our currency. When I met Carolyn in 2010, she shared her aspirations with me, and we both agree that she exceeded them! She was able to reach this success, while remaining humble and kind.

Peggy McColl: She is a long-time friend and fearless entrepreneur. Over the years, she has overcome so many obstacles. The drive and passion put into what she believes in has always been an inspiration to me.

What challenge (s) did you face & overcome to get to where you are?

There were professional challenges but none as difficult as the personal ones. A year after I started my business, my husband was diagnosed with cancer and died 3 months later. We had been married 17 years. I was now a grieving single parent of two wonderful children, Kenny 12 and Sandrine 7. Four years later, my beautiful little girl Sandrine, at the age of 11, was killed in a school bus accident.

Overcoming those tragedies and finding the motivation to continue facing the challenges of owning my own business seemed insurmountable at times. My husband and daughter became my inspiration for forging ahead, and my son became my motivation. I wanted to provide financially and be a role model for him.

What are the 3 most important things you do (or did) that contribute to your success?

Seeing the glass half full
Taking risks
Believing in myself

What are the 3 most important things women need to do or consider when charting their next chapter of life, whenever that may be for them?

Make time for yourself (yes, be selfish – go to the gym, frequent the spa, visit your friends)
Continue learning (keep growing your professional and personal development activities)
Remain current and relevant

Diane Craig is the corporate world’s choice for Executive Presence Training.

As President and Founder of Corporate Class Inc., Diane’s ongoing 30-year career mentoring North America’s business professionals spans Fortune 500 companies, multinationals and numerous educational institutions.

She maintains an intensive schedule of presentations and is a frequent speaker at national business meetings and conferences. The media seek out Diane’s perspectives on social, political and business etiquette — from conduct issues and appropriate attire to body language interpretation. She is frequently quoted in The Globe and Mail and National Post and appears regularly on CBC and CTV.

Diane is dedicated to community service. She serves as a Board Member for the Trillium Gift of Life Network, the provincial organization responsible for organ and tissue donation and transplantation. Diane is on the Board of Directors at Intriciti, an organization committed to the integration of faith and business.

Frequently heralded for her inspirational role in leadership, Diane is the recipient of many awards including the Governor General of Canada Meritorious Service Medal; Canadian Living Magazine and Avon Canada’s Women of Inspiration Award; Toastmaster International’s Communication and Leadership Award.

Yes, You Can!

May you feel like this when you see something you would like to do or be!

This picture (from Maria Montessori one of my top women role models) just has YES written all over it.

Success Comes at the Pace of One Step at a Time

When you find yourself in extremely difficult situations, take it one step at a time. I love the image Joe De Sena gives of running — just to the next telephone pole, not the total distance.

“The way to get through anything mentally painful is to take it a little at a time. The mind can’t handle dealing with a massive iceberg of pain in front of it, but it can deal with short nuggets that will come to an end. So instead of thinking, Ugh, I’ve got twenty-four miles to go, focus on making it to the next telephone pole in the distance…the ability to compartmentalize pain into these small bite sizes is key.” ~ Joe De Sena from Spartan Up!

When coaching grief groups, I’m often surrounded by people whose lives have just been shaken to the core — the loss of a lifelong partner, the death of a parent, or even a child. At these times, it feels like the very foundation has dropped out, and they are navigating the world with no floors or ground. I cannot take away their pain, I can only help them navigate the waters until the waves become less violent. At those times, one of the best remedies is to not try to visualize life in total — which feels hopeless and overwhelming — but to visualize getting through the current day, or even hour.

Whatever in your life is stopping you in your tracks — even if it is just today’s work — can be compartmentalized to it’s smaller components and tackled one at a time.

If you find yourself not taking action because the task feels too big, or the result too risky — try this technique. Because moving forward, even one small step, will help you improve your outlook and your results.

With the Right Mentality, Your Obstacles Will Give Way

Recently, I have been plagued with a number of set backs in a project of mine. The setbacks were tied to government agencies, so the solutions were slow and laborious. It has been hard to not focus on the problems. These are the moments when affirmations and pretending things are OK fail most of us, and they were failing me. All I could see was the obstacle.

So I used an exercise to help me focus on the outcome I want (and not feel like I am just lying to myself).

First, I wrote down everything that was going wrong. I included my judgment about the people involved, the unjustness of the situation, and how it makes me feel. Then, I noticed some repetitive patterns in my outlook similar to other situations, so I kept writing — things like how it seems I often make great efforts and then something “always” happens to get me off track — or how things are so hard. I wrote until I had completely exhausted all the ways this situation and similar ones frustrate me.

You know you’re on to something important when what you write makes you think, “Yep, that is exactly how it is.”

It could be how you have been trying to improve your relationship for some time, but your partner is unwilling to put the effort into changing. Or maybe it is that you do a great job at work and your boss dismisses your efforts and praises other people who didn’t work near as hard as you.

After I felt complete with this part, I began writing what it would look and feel like if I was experiencing the exact opposite of this situation.

Because what I wrote was the polar opposite of what I had been experiencing it was really powerful. I could actually FEEL what it would feel like to have it be like I wanted. The difference is that it wasn’t a band-aid affirmation — it was the EXACT OPPOSITE of what I had written –line by line.

Because I was already emotionally involved in my view of what was wrong, it was equally easy to pin point the exact things that would feel right. I think that is the key to exercises like this. You need to use them in the moment, not just as a theoretical exercise.

Now, I am ready each morning and rewriting each night (focusing on the things I wrote about what I do want to experience). And it’s working!

I will leave you with a quote from Napoleon, who was known for being single-minded in his thinking.

I see only the objective; the obstacles must give way!

You might want to try this exercise, too, join me in overcoming negative thought patterns! And, please let me know how it goes.

Are You Planning for the Worst?

I have spent years avoiding what I do not want. Avoiding the bad. Do you know that feeling?

I scan my environment continually. I notice other people’s moods, find ways to improve them, review business results, quickly change any headed the wrong way, assess my calendar and adjust to ensure there are no conflicts with important people and events. I am good at anticipating other people’s needs or problems before they articulate them, short circuiting problems before they arise with my family, employees, and friends.

In some ways, it looks like I am extremely effective because of this knack at having a keen radar for my world and its direction. If you have this tendency to be exo-centric (a new word I made up in contrast to eco-centric) then you understand what I mean. Don’t get me wrong, my basic ability to be empathetic and inspire people around me is great (as is my ability to turn around businesses and keep a packed calendar that still works). This gets me a lot of kuddos in the world.

But it is exhausting AND keeps me focused on what can go wrong! The underlying motivating force has my world on tilt and not near as fun as it could be.

What I am noticing is the energy behind this “strength” of mine is a fear that something is about to go wrong and that I need to ensure it doesn’t.

Ouch! That is not the mental attitude I want to live my life from. And with all the positive reinforcement I get from family, friends and co-workers for keeping life smooth for them and me, no wonder it took me so long to notice this.

I think I have spent most of my life avoiding “catastrophe.” I don’t think it would be useful to just affirm I am not going to do it anymore starting today, but I do want to change it.

So my plan is to actively notice what is going well. It may not immediately stop these other thoughts, but over time with practice I will be training my mind to build on the good instead of avoid the bad.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this? Are you an avoid-er of problems? What will you do to move your radar detection mechanism away from this tendency?

Are you focused?

What would it take to actually achieve those goals you set at the beginning of the year?

Are you focused; or are you plagued with guilt over still carrying those extra pounds or not maintaining the original vigor you had to accomplish a specific career or relationship goal?

In a previous blog, I talked about how our subconscious mind has a set point, that brings us back to a pre-programmed belief about ourselves (whether it is in our weight, work or our relationships).

For most of us, those unconscious beliefs keep us stuck where we don’t want to be instead of heading where we’ve stated we want to go.

But there are ways to use this same mechanism to get what we do want, too.

The four steps for moving from a negative set point to a positive one are:

Move your attention from what you do not want to what you do.
Start to see yourself as having what you do want.
Expect the good you want; not the bad you do not.
Look for what is already good and be grateful for it.

I remember a friend telling a story about his first motorcycle ride in the Colorado mountains. Although an experienced rider, he said he was overly nervous and driving slower than the friend he was riding with. Finally, his friend pulled off the road at a overlook to talk. When they had both pulled over his friend looked him in the eye and said, “You will go off the edge if you keep looking at it. You have to look at where you want to go. It is the only way to drive these mountains safely.”

It is the same lesson in life as on that mountain road — if you keep looking where you don’t want to go, that is where you will end up. I notice it in every aspect of my life.

I remember hearing about this same concept in parenting classes years ago. My kids would promise to help with dishes or do some chore. I would notice that they didn’t do it. We would fight. They would do it reluctantly and then the cycle would start all over again. But when I would follow the recommendations to notice and thank them when they did do what I wanted, rather than focus on when they did not, I truly got more and more of what I wanted.

So whatever the goal — no matter how guilty you feel that you haven’t yet achieved it — start training your mind to look at the goal, not your current lack of it.

It really is simply a habit, the way we look at things. Like any habit, they become habits through repetition. So to change it we need to repeatedly change our view. I have been doing this for a year and by repeatedly moving my attention to my goal, and off my current results, I have noticed I am changing my set point. My rebound to old patterns is happening less and less.

It took years to set these old patterns of noticing what is wrong, so be persistent at reinforcing the new place you want to be.

I like to write my goal each morning as if it has already occurred. You might prefer recording yours, so you can listen to yourself saying it while driving. Either way, find ways to remind yourself to visualize your goal. And then when you notice you are thinking about your current result, remember the mountain road and readjust where you are looking!

Pick one or two things you have been trying to change and make a conscious effort to feed your mind the positive pictures and feelings of having already achieved it.

Interviews with Influential Women – Liz Edlich

Authenticity and kindness are essential to long-term success. Equipped with these attributes, Radical Skincare Co-founder Liz Edlich ranks them high in what has propelled her success. In this latest Interview with Influential Women, Liz highlights the people that have helped her along her journey and discusses the steps you need to take to ensure your next chapter of life is one you desire.

Please give my readers a short background on your personal journey that brought you to today.

We approach skincare and life the same way, radically. As daughters of Dr. Richard F. Edlich MD-PhD (world renowned Professor of Plastic Surgery), we worked in his lab and burn unit at the University of Virginia. Before the age of ten, we were exposed to the science of skin rejuvenation at extreme levels. Since then, we have been inspired by our dad to be radical and go above and beyond, as he changed the landscape of medicine from his wheelchair with multiple sclerosis.

It was part of our DNA that we ended up in the skin care industry in Los Angeles. For 15 years, we created over 100 products for celebrities and others. But when it became personal, we had to get radical. With Rachel developing Rosacea after her second child and gravity taking its toll on our skin, we decided to do something about it.

We challenged our chemists and after perfecting it and trialing it, we found it.

After scooping the product out of lab in sample bottles and labeling them with magic markers, we gave this youth elixir to our friends as party favors. This experiment transformed our skin and the skin of our friends. Given our family heritage and life-long mission to make a radical difference, we were compelled to share radical skincare with others.

Just like there is a technology for creating the strongest skincare that can soothe sensitive skin, there is a technology for creating a life you love. It is with that commitment that we have been traveling around the world sharing our life- changing skincare and coaching woman on creating a life that they love. Delivering radical results and nothing less in life is our mission.

Who are your top 3 female role models, and what about each inspires you?

My Mother: I am inspired by her ultimate kindness… her quiet strength to have stayed by my father’s side and watch his degeneration with MS for 40 years, selfless dedication to her kids, and love of music and people. She always supported the underdog and those that cannot take care of themselves.

Yvette Mimeux: As an all-time beauty, actress and force to be reckoned with, Yvette, “Tinkerbell” as I call her, is an activist for joy, travel, animals, food and life experiencing every moment and making it beautiful. Her artistic eye casts a poetic hue of vibrant color, exotic tastes and laughter that make every moment a celebration. I carry this nature with me and work to breathe the same spirit into each one of my moments.

My Sister: There are no words. It just is.

I am lucky. I collect people. I have many mentors and friends that I learn from, and I take the best of them with me.

Dyan Cannon: for teaching me unconditional love and faith.

Cynthia Kersey: for her loving energy and giving.

Maria Price: for mentoring and molding me from 19 to 31 in the business world to help me operate within structure, although I still can be a bull in a china shop. 🙂

Melanie Griffith: for her loving generosity.

Goldie Hawn: for her grace and laughter.

Shawn Taddey: for her generosity, magical expression and embracing passion.

Eva Vapori: for her joy and laughter.

Baroness Scotland: for her humility with purpose and driven spirit.

Really, the list is much longer. Each person left his or her imprint and special footprint. And on life’s journey, it is wonderful to draw from them to become a better me.

P.S. there is a very long list of men as well.

What are the 3 most important things women need to do or consider when charting their next chapter of life, whenever that may be for them?

First, it is important to identify your passion and what lights you up. It may be different at different times in your life. Passion and purpose are great indicators of a direction that you should explore to achieve success and happiness in whatever stage that you are in.

Second, set clear goals and have a vision of what lights you up. Being able to see the image of what you want is important to get emotionally involved, providing you with the energy to create it.

Third, have a radical dream team around you that see your possibility and support your journey. Don’t be afraid of failing; be terrified of not trying, says Baroness Patricia Scotland (Attorney General of England).

As we progress through life, we get the gift of perspective and realize that every moment counts. No excuses; no regrets.

Experiencing life, people, places and things is the spice that guarantees a rich life well lived.

What are the 3 most important things you do (or did) that contribute to your success?

One: I am incredibly tenacious. I will persevere in the extreme, if I am on a purposeful mission that matters. This has served me and hurt me at times, as I have achieved regardless of the adversity before me and hung on too long when I should have let go.

Two: I am an optimist. I see what is possible, not what isn’t. I always think of how to go over, under and around to get where I need to go. I see a better, brighter day and believe that people are basically good. As my mom would say, “We are all doing our best at any given time” (as long as my hormones are in line 🙂 if they are off – no telling)

Three: I am a risk taker and willing to make mistakes. That has been a real gift.

Four (if I may add one more): I am authentic and kind. I think that these are two very important factors in creating success, happiness and fulfillment. People feel it, and it moves them. You feel good when you practice both, and it moves you.

Who is the most influential women in your life?

Liz Edlich brings an extensive career in financial management, capital sourcing, product development, production and market strategy to her position at Radical Skincare.

Edlich’s cultivation of relationships with top investment managers and funds led her to become Managing Director of Heritage Asset Management, where she took the firm from $68 million to $500 million in assets under management during a three-year period before advising and brokering the sale of Heritage Asset Management to a third party. As a private investment banker and strategic business consultant, she was involved in numerous public and private business transactions. She has spent the last 15 years of her career in the Direct Marketing and skincare business at her company One World Live, developing over 100 products for celebrities and influencers. While at One World, Edlich focused on corporate strategy while managing product and company acquisitions, celebrity relations, commercial production and closely collaborating on product development and packaging.

Edlich’s career has also been defined by her commitment to giving back. Throughout her life, Edlich has volunteered her time and resources to advance important causes. From working with burn victims and developmentally disabled youths to children with facial deformities with Operation Smile in LA and in Africa; seeing her father through Multiple Sclerosis Rehab to working with the American Heart Association, Edlich has always been dedicated to making a difference in peoples’ lives.

Moving your dream forward starts the moment you wake up

I love the hibernation energy of winter—hot teas, glowing fires, the urge to curl up with a good book and inspiration to move your dreams into action.

Slowing down is part of our natural biological clock at this time of year, and Mother Nature often forces the decision—even if we do not heed the call. Even though cold weather may be blustering outside in the Northern Hemisphere, it does not have to slow your movement towards your dreams. At the same time, pursuing your dreams does not require you to be overactive and miss out on the sweetness of renewing yourself.

One thing that probably keeps you from moving forward on your dream is the mountain of tasks you wake to each day—just to keep your existing life in motion. When I start my day trying to whittle down my to-do list, I rarely get to my main goals, and when I do, my creative juices are slow as molasses.

I have a trick that can keep your sights on the prize—while you enjoy steaming soups and fireside chats. (Even those of you basking in warmth down south can enjoy this trick to prosperity.) My trick?

I always start my day doing something towards my big goal.

Whether you invest 30 minutes or work until noon on your dreams before you start on the to-do’s, you will be amazed at the massive progress you will make.

What if you don’t do this? Well, I will be writing to you next year at this time, and you will be in about the same place as today; your dreams still unrealized.

Go ahead, give it a try. A year of 30 minutes is a whole lot of movement forward. You won’t miss the 30 minutes if you do it; but you will deeply miss your dreams if you don’t.

Are you in your own way?

Do you wish things in your life were better? Different? Are you are getting in your own way?

I think everyone has things they want to see improve–whether in their career, relationships or health. Yet, I have noticed that these changes are slow and laborious, if they happen at all.

Does it feel that way to you? You go on a diet and the weight comes off slowly, but it comes right back. You go to counseling with your partner and things change for a while but then you find yourselves back in old patterns. Maybe you got a promotion at work a few years back but now feel stalled in this position.

I have learned a few things lately that can change this trajectory–or lack of one–for you and me. These tips can move you from slow and steady progress, with numerous setbacks, to quantum leaps towards the life you desire!

Did you know that our minds operate the same way a rocket gets to the moon or a plane on auto pilot gets back on course? It is through thousands of small adjustments that the rocket ship arrives at the moon, exactly on course–slightly off course the whole trip (always correcting.

Your mind works exactly the same way, only sometimes the course you keep resetting to is exactly the one you are trying to move off of.

Have you ever noticed someone who is finally making big improvements in their lives and then they sabotage themselves? You probably wonder why they would do that and comment what a shame it is that they did. It is because the good they were creating was not aligned to their internal belief about who they are or what they deserve, so their subconscious mind does what it takes to get them “back on course.”

It is called cybernetics, and Maxwell Maltz wrote a great book about it in the 1960s called “Psycho-Cybernetics” that describes this human tendency in detail. It is a thought provoking book, and if you haven’t read it you should.

The bigger question in your mind is probably how do you change your subconscious mind’s set point, so you can lose the weight, advance in your career or permanently improve your relationship.

It is really quite simple. There are three steps:

Move your attention from what you do not want to what you do.
Start to see yourself as having what you do want.
Expect the good you want; not the bad you do not.
Look for what is already good and be grateful for it.

We are going to look at these individually over the next few weeks. I will bring you tips and exercises to help you do each one because by changing your internal cybernetic mechanism you will be able to shift your life dramatically in the direction of your desires.

Are you ready to take a quantum leap?

I want to leave you with a quote from another fantastic book called You Squared (it actually is You with the 2 up high in the mathematical position of square which I simply cannot replicate in WordPress.)

The quantum leap is something you’ve been keeping from happening. It’s not something you have to struggle to make happen. You don’t really force it into existence…you just let it occur. The key is not to get in the way!

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