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Should New Business Start-Ups Fake It or Not?

Start-up entrepreneurs often struggle between looking good to outsiders and being honest about where they are in their company’s development. Do you know when to fake it until you make it and when to fully disclose your position?

From the title of Danielle Tate’s article, Fake It Till You Make It For Startups, I assumed I was going to write a rebuttal to her piece. I oppose the concept of faking it until you make it under the scenario that you pretend to be an expert where you are not and sell yourself that way.

Yet, Daniel’s piece has nothing to do with how I interpreted the title. She gives a wonderful reminder if you are contemplating or in the midst of a new start-up that being in a garage or basement is not only alright, but also exactly where you perhaps should be until you are past the bootstrapping phase. In other words, working in the extra bedroom does not minimize the value of your concept, nor how you should present yourself or your ideas when pitching it outside your makeshift office.

Too many, startup companies don’t feel legitimate until they have an official office space and rush too quickly into this type of fixed costs before they can afford it. (A fixed cost is one that does not go up or down with your volume of business and has to be paid whether you are selling products or not. A variable cost does what its name implies. It varies with your sales so you do not incur these costs unless you are selling something.) Adding fixed costs takes valuable resources away from functions that will yield revenue.

Don’t let the allure of having something to prove your company’s value to customers, employees or even investors fool you into taking this step prematurely. Your idea is valuable, wherever you house your office and do your work. We ran our last service business for two years out of our home—employees and myself answering phone calls and emails from my kitchen table—until we built our office space. It freed money to spend on quality employees, expansion of our product offering, and other needed expenses—while our business grew. Our customers were getting the best service possible and really had no idea they were talking to us from my kitchen. My banker did not know either. However, I can comfortably say the bank would have been pleased I was not adding fixed costs to my operations since that improved their chance of getting paid back!

When starting out, more important than a brick and mortar building are your company’s partnerships with others who can advise, promote, and connect you and your idea to the right people and organizations. Although you don’t want to be shy soliciting partnerships with big names or influencers, partnerships with smaller names or organizations are also essential for fast growth. Finding ways to collaborate with others so they become your ambassador is always a key to rapid, early success.

When you are presenting your mission, concept and direction, speak as if you already are there. Don’t apologize for not having a glossy convention booth or big office (if those are not essential for your business). Don’t minimize your ability to get where you want to go. Think big. Act big. And speak with the confidence that it has already happened. Because in reality, it happened the minute you made a decision to act. You have conceived your idea in your mind, which is the place where all great things begin.

When John F. Kennedy decided to put a man on the moon and return him safely to earth, he did not talk to Congress or the American people with words like…

“I think we can…”

“Maybe if this goes well, we will…”

Nope. He made a decision and spoke about it as a completed fact that only needed to be materialized. You, too, need to present your ideas as successes about to materialize, not wishes or dreams. If you believe in your business and present it with the determined faith that it will be, potential customers, investors and employees will all see it as happening, too.

Yet, when it comes to presenting your projections and current progress – be real with customers, investors and employees. Don’t fake it.

Woman in a Man’s World

Can you imagine being the first women in venture capital?  To put this in perspective, today after 30+ years of women in venture capital there are fewer than 4% of senior VC’s who are women! Now imagine, again, how out of place Kathryn Gould must have been in these early years in a man’s world.

Kathryn gave the commencement speech at University of Chicago this year, and if you haven’t read it yet, I highly recommend reading it.  She has been on the investing side and the entrepreneur side, and shares some wonderful advice.  These are some highlights of her speech.  These are really great gems of wisdom for anyone, especially a woman entrepreneur in her first start up.

1. “So, about your adventure:  should you have a plan? Maybe. But don’t follow it. Planning prepares the mind, and chance favors the prepared mind, but chance usually messes up plans!”

2. “Don’t be afraid to take a step down” (Kathryn left as marketing manager for a $100 Million  business to join Oracle, a $1 Million business.)  I agree, if your intuition says it is a good idea, but all the outer world says “no stay at your good job”, chances are it is time to take a leap.  I talk about this often.  When I left IBM to join a small start up that later became what we know as the cellular industry, no one thought I was making a wise choice.  But my intuition said jump!

3.  “Build Your Skills Not Your Resume.”  We live in a work world of resumes, but not once you become an entrepreneur.  When you are starting your own business, you will be doing jobs from janitor to book keeping at times.  Broaden your skills at every chance you can, before and after you take the plunge.

4.  These are some gems she learned along the way:

  • “How to cold call –adrenaline, real time, 3 seconds to grab their attention—learn this!”
  • “Also the adage As hire As, Bs hire Cs—absolutely true—be careful of the company you keep.”
  • “What goes around comes around. Help people with their careers, their ideas, contacts—and I’m serious, good things come back years later.”
  • “I also learned that the first time without a paycheck is a little scary.”

5.  “Find Your Obsession.”  I should put this at the top, the middle and the end.  Without a burning desire for achieving something you will not have the needed fire to fuel your path as an entrepreneur. 

6. “It’s Not the Calls You Take, It’s the Calls You Make.  You are the creator of your destiny. In whatever business you’re in, there is always so much coming at you that you can stay insanely busy just responding.  Don’t do that. Always think about what is your agenda, what do you want to make happen, what do you want the future to look like.  This is not so easy.”  I think this might be the number two reason people fail at start-ups or careers.  (The number one reason is not having a goal they truly are passionate about.) Years ago I moved my family to the country.  Initially there was no cell phone coverage on our land and although we installed a phone line, we worked on one side of our 88 acres and lived on the other.  Our one land-line phone meant we were away from the phone most of the day. When our answering machine broke people became irritated they could not leave us messages–playing the now familiar electronic version of tag, your it. However, I found such freedom in not responding to everyone else’s requests that I stalled considerably getting a new machine.  I recognized in that experience the perpetual vortex of being sucked into other people’s priorities, and the power of stepping out of it.

I leave you with Kathryn’s ending remarks:

“Break rules, find your obsession, be extraordinary!”

In life — Eat one bite at a time!

“The distance is nothing; it is only the first step that is difficult.”
Madame Marie du Deffand

I love this quote!  It reminds me of wisdom I have had to learn over and over again.  That wisdom is: It is not essential to know all the steps of how to accomplish a big goal.  What is essential is taking the next step.

So often we become paralyzed by the scope of our goal or the number of things looming over us needing to be done and we fail to move forward at all.  Each step, no matter how small, will move you closer.

When I hit this place it appears every aspect of my goal is tied to the next and will create a domino affect if I make the wrong move, or miss the magic answer.  If the project feels like climbing Mount Kilimanjaro sometimes I spin in circles trying to put all the pieces into some systematic order that will make the job come together.  From this place decisions are impossible and forward motion ceases.

Yet, truly all that is needed is for me to take the next step.  And with each step the next one becomes more obvious.  Each step simplifies the path and brings the end goal closer.  And my taking action not only moves me closer to the goal, it also reduces my anxiety and clarifies my thoughts.  This simple solution has solved more problems for me than almost anything else.

Do you sometimes get paralyzed by decisions that feel too huge, or a project that feels overwhelming?  Try this next time.  Take just the very next step.  Decisions become easier and mountains of tasks slowly shrink to a manageable size.

Why do women have great friends and horrible networks?

I have been coaching women entrepreneurs for awhile and am dismayed by our gender’s general lack of networking when we are so good at creating social circles and deep friendships. Too many business women work hard to get ahead and fail to create the professional networking so vital to advancement.

Women are known as the sex that is better at relationships, communicate more and more effectively, and have stronger compassion genes. Yet, study after study show that women regularly fail at networking when it comes to their careers.

A recent article by one of my favorite Forbes contributors, Geri Stengel points to many of the pitfalls my clients have fallen into when they come see me about jumpstarting their stalled career or helping their start-up take flight.  Geri offers 6 tips for improving networking skills including “get over your inhibitions.”

However, I find most women are not shy, so this does not necessarily point to the real issue but is more of a symptom.  What I have learned coaching women is they are hard wired to supporting other people’s requests (their boss, co-worker, or family) but find it extremely difficult to ask others to help them, to ask for what they need. Period.  No amount of “getting over your inhibitions,” cracking the confidence code, or leaning in will unwire this because it is not about assertiveness.  Women can be plenty assertive at pitching their deal, rally for a cause, or going to bat for an employee.  Where they fail to speak up is asking for themselves.

To ask for something for yourself requires a few key things.  It is about knowing what you want, seeing how others could help you, and reversing genetic conditioning that stops you from recruiting others’ help. Let’s look at the first one, knowing what you want– since without that step the others are meaningless.

Many years ago I had a counselor send me home with the assignment of writing down everything I would ask for if I had the guts, and not ask.  She just wanted me to start to know what it was I would ask for if I felt I could.  Whoa!  Once I got going I realized there were a lot of things I was not asking for.  It was a great exercise and because she did not send me off to start asking for what I wanted, I was able to see more clearly all the areas that I was holding back.  If she had recommended I go start asking for what I want, I am sure I would not have been able to think of anything to ask for.

You, too can start this with just a pad a paper.  You don’t have to ask your boss for a raise or an investor for money.  At least not yet.  Start with a clean sheet and just think. If I could not loose–what is it I would ask for.  Start to really make long lists. List all the people you would ask.  It will help grow your muscle of seeing yourself as capable of asking.  You might surprise yourself and start asking sooner than you think.

My new Vision Board

One picture.

One focus.

One message.

Sometimes we get lost trying to find all the nuances of something when the simplest idea conveys the most meaning.  I have a vision board with lots of great things on it.  However, I am replacing it today with this picture.  For it represents to me…

Grace, Strength, Beauty, Purpose, and Courage!  ALL with a capital G,S,B,P, and C!  These are qualities I aspire to embody.

The other things on my vision board are still important.  Yet, they are the result of me living with these qualities at my inner core and then living them in my daily life.  The qualities I feel when I look at this picture are the cause!  And so I am moving my attention to the cause and allowing the results to happen as a result of my attention to what I truly desire.

What qualities do you aspire to embody?  When you find an image that can help you remember them, all in one moment ~ hang on to it, look at it daily, imagine it in everything you do!

What limitations do you believe?

In 1955 and at the age of 67, Emma Gatewood, mother of 11 and grandmother of 23, became the first woman to thru-hike the 2168-mile Appalachian Trail solo.

It makes you wonder what limitations we hold as fact that might be a belief we acquired along the way–a belief we could just as easily put down as hold.  Do you think you are too old?  Too fat?  Too young?  Do you worry you don’t have the right education?  Or the right experience?  Do you think only men can do that?  Or only people who already have money?  Do you feel other people have advantages you do not?

What voices do you listen to that tell you it can’t be done?

What would you be doing if you did not believe that limitation?

I am certain there were plenty of people telling Emma Gatewood she was too old or for any number of reasons (including she was a woman) she shouldn’t attempt to hike the entire Appalachian Trail alone.  Maybe she had internal voices saying things, too.

She obviously did not listen.  What could you do if you stopped listening to the clatter of limitations you currently believe?

Imagine your dream in detail often.  Make a plan that moves you in the direction of your goal.  Surround yourself with people who will tell you — “You go girl”!

And then go…..

You only have to take one step at a time, and with each successful step you become stronger, bolder and closer to your dream!

What dreams do you have that you hold yourself back from following?

Drop Negative Media Headlines as Truth and look elsewhere for news

Sometimes we focus too much on what is not right.  Yet, focusing on what is going well, who is showing up and making things better, and how good things are happening all around us is exactly the recipe for bringing more of the good things to the stage of our lives.

Melinda Gates has a forum on tumblr to spotlight people who are making a difference at empowering women and girls.  You will be inspired reading about these unsung heroes and heroines.

Just as important as what these wonderful people are doing is asking ourselves what are we doing to empower women and girls.  What can I do today, this week, this month that will give some other woman a lift up?

The people Melinda is highlighting did not just one day do an amazing, global, world changing act.   They set out with small acts of courage to go against the norm, small words of encouragement when some female was down and out, or some gift of mentorship for one, single individual that built in them the muscle and the habit of doing more and more until they did something the world recognizes as a great contribution.

Look around your world.  What women and girls do you come into contact with?  What do they need to get ahead that you could help with?  Look at yourself.  What strengths do you have?  What experience have you garnered?  How can you share your strengths and wisdom with other women or girls–maybe just one, possibly making a difference in their lives?

Large acts of grandeur are not necessary for women and girls to become fully empowered. Small, continuous acts of generosity from those of us that have something to share may have a far wider reach than we ever imagined.

Let me know what you do to help empower other women and girls.  Your idea could be the winning lottery ticket that inspires millions of others to do the same small act that changes the world for women from this day forward.

Are you unstoppable – like this woman?

This woman suffered outer circumstances you and I could not imagine.  Yet, she is unstoppable.  Are you?

Jane was pulled out of school by the age of 9 years old,  married by 12,  had 5 children and lived in poverty.  Yet, Jane decided to make sure her own children were educated.  Then she decided to become educated herself. (Note: decisions are key, you can wish and whine until you die — or you can decide.)  She learned basic math, bookkeeping, and income-generating skills, as well as how to save money and secure loans as part of the income training in The Unstoppable Foundation’s 5-pillar development model.  She developed skills that positioned her as a leader in her community.

Her decision and subsequent actions created inspiration for her husband who also got educated.  Then he organized the men in the village to become educated.

Next, their village agreed to stop marrying girls by age 12 and now commit to everyone being educated.

8 years later from her decision to come out of poverty she has changed her whole village to one that is prospering and sustainable.  You can read more about her and others like her here.

The key to being unstoppable is going after something you have a strong desire for, like Jane when she determined her children (even her girls) were going to be educated.  If you are doing what you are passionate about — you will be unstoppable!

How do you figure out what you are passionate about?  Take time to listen to your quiet inner voice through meditation, retreats and journalling.  Take time to fantasize the life of you dreams.  Dream big.  Notice what things make you feel enlivened and what things drain you. You can start today.  Take my free quiz and then listen to the free meditation audio you will receive.  It will help you move your imagination until you can dream of a life that brings you joy, not every once in awhile–but every day.

 

To Achieve True Empowerment, Women Must Enlist Men On Their Mission

Below is one of the best and comprehensive discussions of why empowering women makes sense for everyone, not just women.

Read here: 3 L’s of Women’s Empowerment by Christine Lagarde

When talking about educating women, especially in third world countries where girls typically leave school around adolescence, Christine quotes an African adage, “If you educate a boy, you train a man. If you educate a girl, you train a village.”   But Christine does not leave us just creating schools in Africa, she addresses the gender wage gap and it’s affects on our global economies.  She then finishes with potent statistics about how women in leadership positions statistically improve the results of their organization.

It is not about us verses them, male verses female.  This is about us, we, all of us.  Gender diversity, not gender dominance.  When we honor both men and women and the unique strengths we each bring to our world, we will all win.

Read her article Christine’s article here.  It will help you see the bigger picture of what we are aiming for together.

5 Tips for Working Moms

What can you do when you are not home after school to connect with your child, help with homework, and maintain a close connection with their daily life?

Find a routine you can commit to and be there at those times. Use these times to discuss classes, homework and any wins or challenges. Most importantly, use these ideas to build connection with your child and make them sacred times you do not easily schedule over. Some ideas for making time:

1. make sure you are the one driving to school so you have that time to connect, since you cannot do it after school.

2. If you are home at dinner time, make sure you eat together regularly–even if it is take out food because you do not have time to cook,

3. Plan a weekly day/night out where they can look forward to having alone time with you without distractions doing things you both love,

4. Check in when you do arrive home, sit on their bed or where ever they are and ask questions–how was your day? any new kids at school this year, what are they like? or I have had a challenging week, how about you any challenges lately? — and then listen.

5.  If you really are not around much after school find a group of parents of your child’s friends that you stay close with who can also hold your child and create a safe container. Maybe invite them and their children over regularly on weekends so that bonds are made and a village is formed. This is the most important thing you can do, whether your a stay at home mom or a traveling business woman. Find ways to form a village where you are not the only one watching out for your child and you have close contact with their “gang” of friends.