This changed my life…

I do not need to hold onto the hope of who I need him to be. This frees me to be OK with who he is, forgive him, and BEGIN TO TAKE CARE OF ME!

This simple act of letting go of the hope for who I wanted him to be frees me from needing to convince, plead, cajole, and banter about it. It frees me to focus on the one thing I can do something about…

I can take care of me!

Although I immediately took this into my relationship with my children’s father, I can use it about my mother, my children, a boss, a friend…anyone I am feeling less than in harmony with!