Two questions I get asked most often are, “How do I get in touch with my inner guidance?” and “How do I tell the difference between my inner guide and my anxieties and doubts?”

 These are important questions. Each of us has our own compass to know what is true for us. Unfortunately most people rarely look inside for answers to their most pressing questions. There are some universal truths to help you hear more clearly your wise inner soul and discern her from the other inner voices.

 Of course, the first and foremost step to cultivating your inner wisdom is beginning to listen.

Most of us are so busy “doing life” that we rarely slow down long enough to hear the small, quiet whisper of our inner guide. I have learned to notice that when I finally have time with nothing planned if I am quick to call a friend, or make a date, I am probably avoiding hearing what she has to say.

An easy way to make sure you’ve opened the door and invited your wise woman to speak is to cultivate quiet time in your life–time when you are not trying to figure something out, get anything done, or interact with someone else–just time for you. This can take many forms, and some of my favorite ways are to:

• Journal
• Meditate
• Exercise
• Unplug my phone and computer for an afternoon
• Walk in the woods
• Take a long bath
• Practice yoga

What you do to cultivate your inner guide is not as important as that you do it, and do it regularly enough that a deep conversation can emerge.

The reason most of us feel so disconnected to our inner wise woman is because she speaks softly, almost in whispers. She does not push or pull at us like doubt and anxiety; nor does she turn up the volume to get our attention. She waits patiently until we turn our attention inward.

 In today’s tech culture with our fast paced lives where we multitask everything, it takes an active decision to cultivate wisdom. Usually we turn outside for advice–friends, co-workers, books, and authority figures. We ask for more information.

 Yet, wisdom is an inner knowing rather than factual intelligence. I have been meditating for 25 years and although I don’t hear loud voices talking to me; my regular practice of going inside keeps me calm under pressure and helps me feel the difference between my myriad of negative stories and my true inner guide.

 When your inner wise woman gives you advice it usually causes a release in the tension in your shoulders, your jaw, or might even bring out a sigh of relief. She does not shame or make you feel guilty. She helps you move towards more joy. Her wisdom can open doors that you did not even know were there; once you begin to listen.

 In some traditions, when you meditate you incline your head slightly towards your heart as if preparing to listen. I like that visual. My mind is a great tool and when it is in service to my heart my life works well, people appear in time to help just when I need them, and circumstances arise that I could not force into existence–all as if by magic.

 Make time each day to quiet your mind and soon your heart will be guiding you regularly.